Management is about managing people. Someone can be a higher flyer at work managing lots of people in important projects and yet face difficulty in managing their children especially their teenager at home. Isn’t managing people the same as managing your teenager? There are some similarities and yet there are some differences and that is why one is call a manager and the other a parent. In Parenting Teenagers guide we will look at why you can be a good manager and yet you can be a poor parent.
The biggest difference between a manager and a parent is the following:
The person can choose his or her manager The manager can choose his or her person The teenager or children cannot choose his or her parents The parents cannot choose his or her teenager or children
This difference is why you can be a good manager but yet can be a poor parent. It is all about authority and influence. When you are a manager you have the influence and the authority and can exert your authority or influence over the person who reports to you . You have an influence over this person job security which means his livelihood. When you are a parent you have influence and authority over your children when they are young. You have an influence over your young children because they need to have your security. Your influence and authority over your children will start to wane as your children grow older and become a teenager. They don’t need your security as much as when they were young. They feel they are more independent now.
You have to recognize this independence and learn to manage your teenager using a less authoritative approach and a more consultative approach. A consultative approach would means taking their inputs into consideration thus giving them a sense of independence. When decisions make include their inputs, getting your teenager to comply would stand a much better chance of acceptance. In Parenting Teenagers, remember you are a parent and not a manager. Leave your managerial role at work and turn on your parenting role at home.
You can be a good manager and a good parent as long as you know which roles you need to play. There are more useful tips in this Parenting Teenagers guide.
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Parenting Teenagers – Good Manager But Poor Parent
November 16th, 2010Autistic Teenagers
November 3rd, 2010
Being a teenager is a difficult time, being the parent of a teenager is also a challenging time. But if your teen is autistic, this can be not only challenging but very difficult…
For a start how do you explain what will happen to their body. What resources are there available to help you, and how do you access these.
Then there is the hormonal changes, an increase in hormones can sometime trigger seizures in autistic teen’s so you will need to be aware of these. Not all seizures involve falling to the ground and shaking…This kind of seizure is not that common. A lot of seizures are noticed as absences, a blank stare, etc. if you think your autistic teenager may be experiencing seizures of any degree, however small, l you should take them along to your G.P. to be checked out.
Being a teenager is quite confusing, you’re no longer a child, with this comes the pressure of exams, growing sexuality, peer pressure, and all the other things that come with the onset of your teenage years.
At school and at home your life begins to take on new dimensions, you begin to start planning a career and mapping out a future for yourself. The teenage years are a very social time, relationships are formed and people treat you more grown up.
For an autistic teenager, this time can and will be stressful. Their friends will mature and expect them to mature with them… If your autistic teenager has high functioning autism or asperger, chances are they attend a normal school. They will have formed friendships with normally developing children of their own age.
This is where autism social stories will be of benefit to your autistic or asperger teenager, a social story can and will explain all the changes happening to their bodies as well as the changes to their friends bodies.
Why for example all of a sudden they need to use deodorant, maybe people are beginning to complain they smell…Susie might not now be happy to allow them to sniff her hair. Maybe your autistic or asperger teenager is female; a social story can explain menstruation and how to cope with the onset of periods.
Social stories will cover puberty; swear words, taking care of themselves and so much more. Autism social stories are used by many parents to help their teenager better prepare and manage the teenage years.
Parents and educators of autistic teenagers have found by using social stories they have been able to more easily explain and better manage their autistic teenagers mood swings. Autism is a lifelong developmental disorder, it does not make you exempt from developing into an adult.
Autism social skill stories will greatly improve your autistic teens understanding of, and make them more comfortable in, the changing years, as they develop into adulthood.
Credit Card Mistakes
August 14th, 2010
Are you among the many people who have made a mistake with a credit card or mismanaged it? You are not alone. In fact, credit cards are now such common things in wallets and purses that it seems more and more of us are having a hard time paying off the balances. Is this because you lost your job, or is it simply the result of bad decisions regarding the things for which you used your credit card?
Not only can you buy tobacco once you turn 18, but you can also start accumulating debt – maybe even buy that tobacco with a credit card! Schools typically make little effort to educate students about the importance of credit and how to mange money. Yet the day we are old enough and graduate, the banks start sucking us in. No credit, bad credit: no matter what, they are ready to lend young people money with high a very high interest rate. What teenager wouldn’t want a thousand dollars at her disposal? However, within months (if not weeks) the card is maxed and she has a monthly payment over $100 she cannot make. So what does she do? Get another card and continue the cycle, and by the time she’s 19 a girl can be in debt and already getting calls from collectors. And it’s not just teenagers who find themselves in this situation; adults of all ages misuse charge cards.
People have started living off of the charge cards, and what started as one card for emergencies are now 15 with a combined debt of over $60,000 – a balance that will likely never be paid off. How does this happen? you may ask. Is it a mistake? Yes, kind of. Yet the bigger problem is that people do not pay attention to or think about the future. Most can’t even tell you the interest rate they pay on their credit cards. Also, individuals tend to want things now and have maxed out their cards for all the wrong purposes, like buying electronics, clothes, gas and even cars. Some even pay their other household bills with credit cards, and eventually even the water bill is earning interest.
People use credit cards for everything imaginable. If something can be paid for with cards, then they do it. Credit limits are exceeded everyday because the holder does not pay attention to his balance and mistakenly thinks the money will never run out. Some banks even raise credit limits as balances grow higher so customers will spend more.
There are a number of mistakes people can make when owning and using a credit card finder. The most important thing to do is realize that it is not a source of endless money and that you do have to pay it back. If not, the debt can follow you for decades, and something that ran a few hundred dollars will end up costing you thousands.
Being A Teenager
February 16th, 2010
BEING A TEENAGER
I am walking up to the billboard and the only thing racing through my mind is wether my hard work has paid off. One whole year i had sacrificed everything just to do better than good in my tenth standard exams. These exams were the only things that kept me occuied for a year. No going out with friends, no watching movies. Just sitting in your room the whole day with your eyes buried in the books that are now gathering dust at the edge of my cupboard.
I am a girl born and brought up in a middle class Indian family and i have seen the struggle my parents have done to put me in this reputed institution. My mother had lost her sleep to stay by my side giving me enthusiasm and courage while i burned my nights away. My brothers have always pestered me to go and study. My father had given me all the courage he can while he was away on his trips meeting different people doing his work so now the only thing inside my head is wether i have lived up to their expectations. Dissapointing my family is one fear that i cannot face especially dissapointing my mother. I am a normal teenager dealing with the various situations in life. I get different mood swings like shouting at someone without eligible reasons or arguing with my mother that why does she hover so much. One day I am complaining to my friends about my life and the next day i am stating them reasons why i have a glorious life. Attraction to the opposite sex is also a major part of being a teenager. Breaking the rules, setting new limits are all being part of being a teenager. We are impatient and the only thing that we want from our family is love. No scoldings, no correction. A boundless and a free sky is what we expect of our life. Taking the right or the wrong path is our decision influenced by our families.
As i stand here in front of the billboard praying to God i am sure of one thing. No matter whatever happens my family is going to be there for me. I might have made many mistake in my life but my family has stood by me making me understand my mistakes and making sure that i do not repeat them. If any of the parents out there are reading my article i just want to tell you one thing. we teenagers might be arrogant, selfish, a non listner and a non follower of rules but the only thing that we love most is our family. We might not live up to peoples expectations but as long as we know our family is standing by us and is proud of us we will have the strength to fight any situation that comes before us. Drinking, smoking, doing drugs has all become a way of life of some teenagers but no person goes on this path without any reason.
All we teenagers need is a lot of love, a little patience and a little tiny bit of discipline. still wondering what has happened to my results. Well they are coming out this week so wish me all the luck.
